
As much as we wanted to get home, we were actually a little sad to realize that this would be our last Sunday at the park... We (especially Sophie Lu) had so much fun on Sundays, and we are thankful for the beautiful memories we will always have. We enjoyed our stay in Guatemala City SO much more than our time in Antigua. The people are friendly, and all in all, GC just seemed like a cleaner, safer, more convenient, and happier place to us. We stayed at the Crowne Plaza and were very well taken care of. There is a nice grocery store right next to the hotel, as well as lots of places to eat and play. We had a suite, so we were able to cook in our kitchen- which was nice as well. Here is the view of PGN from the rooftop!

I also want to mention (and there will be more later) that from what I know, PGN is not the black hole that people think it is... it is much more organized and methodical than some would like us to believe. Also, Sr. Barrios isn't the evil one he is made out to be. I know he doesn't take bribes and that he is a compassionate man who wants these babies home and is thankful to the families who adopt the orphaned children of Guatemala. (I know PGN is taking longer than it should- I just think it's not all Barrios's fault and that he doesn't do some of the bad things he is accused of....) If you have been asked for money to pay off Barrios, then I am quite certain the person and/or agency who asked you actually kept the money (sidenote: this did not happen to me). I know there are many many families who believe they have been stuck in PGN for many months, even years- but the fact is, unless there is a minor birthmother or another reason for investigation (suspicion of fraud, etc.), these families are probably not getting the truth about their cases. Some agencies lie to families.... some attorneys/facilitators lie to the agencies (who pass along these lies to their clients without any investigation), etc... These agencies don't hold their contacts in Guatemala accountable for anything and (imo) don't ask questions for fear that they won't get more baby listings. Many times, when you are told you are in PGN, you are actually not. Many times, there are kickouts and it takes the facilitator weeks or months to pick up the file and even longer to fix the previos (mistakes) that shouldn't have been made in the first place. Unless these previos involve something the adoptive parents have to fix, the family and/or agency may never even know about the kickout. All the while, families think they have just been stuck in PGN and/or waiting on Barrios's desk because this is what these agencies WANT people to believe. Then if you question these agencies or tell them the truth you have uncovered about your case,
they punish you by threatening your referral, not allowing you to visit, lying to your homestudy agency/social worker, forcing you to get a psychological evaluation or counseling with your Pastor, badmouthing you to other clients, and/or telling you that you don't trust because "You don't trust God and don't have Christ in your heart". (And no, not
*all* of these things happened to us personally...) These agencies are supposed to be our advocates, NOT our adversaries. They have a fiduciary responsibility and are contracted to represent
us. Once they have your money, they don't even pretend to care anymore...
, My advice if you are adopting from Guatemala is: HIRE HELP. Unless you have a great agency (and there are some) like Palmetto Hope or For This Child (please comment if you can recommend any others), then you will greatly benefit from hiring a private firm. I know we did. We hired Adoption Supervisors Group, and that is the ONLY reason Ollie is home at 8 months old. They saved our adoption, and we will be forever grateful to them for that. It was so comforting to find out the TRUTH about our case(s), to be communicated with on a frequent/consistent basis, and to know that our case was being monitored and cared about. Honestly, after what happened with our first referral (and please don't mention her name), we almost didn't want to proceed with Ollie's adoption because we had no faith that he would come home or that his adoption & paperwork were "clean"... especially after the Department of State started warning Americans not to adopt from Guatemala at all. But again, thanks to ASG (Marco), we regained our faith in the process, we were able to confirm the legitimacy of Ollie's adoption, and now we have our beautiful baby boy home where he belongs. I also want to thank the MANY families with our agency who recommended ASG to us, and I want to promise my continued support to my ever-growing group of friends using our agency who
continue to endure the hell of what should have been a beautiful adoption experience.Here is a link from yesterday that people may find interesting... it is about our agency & one of their current clients:
http://forums.adoption.com/guatemala-adoption/300898-so-sad-my-friend-long-rant.html (make sure to read the comments too)
Here is the link for ASG (Adoption Supervisors):
http://www.adoptionsupervisors.com/ I will be writing more about them later, but again- I HIGHLY recommend them-
*** I originally meant to show the PGN photo and simply give my opinion of PGN & Barrios, but then I started to ramble and just write what was on my mind. There is so much more to our story, but for many reasons (namely not wanting to hurt others or to have to worry about being hurt or worse), we are leaning toward not sharing it publicly at this time. Mainly, I just want families to know that there IS help, and that you are not alone....